When starting a relationship, these days I've noticed, some couples just seem to go about it way too fast. Do the phrases 'Don't rush', or 'Let's take it one step at a time' not mean anything to anyone anymore?
I know that during the 'Honeymoon' phase we're all blinded by lust - not love. Love at first sight does not exist - not from what I've seen. The behaviour is always questionable.
Call me cynical if you like. I don't really care. This is just how I see it.
I'm not in a relationship but I remember an incident that happened not too long ago when a guy (who is no longer) in my life invited me out a couple of times. I didn't really know the guy so I gave him a chance.
You gotta take chances, coz then you'll never know right?
Maybe I should've skipped out on giving this guy a chance coz all of a sudden after two outings together, his best friend is sitting next to me telling me that the guy is "falling for me".
Woah.
Stop and rewind please.
How can you fall for someone so easily? So quickly?
I mean, I was flattered but it hit the line of desperate. The guy in question was older and we hardly knew each other. Aren't older guys supposed to be the mature ones? Or is that stereotyping and labelling them too much?
Anyways, I ran away from that guy pretty quickly. :P
But even those in relationships now are moving too fast. I have friends from all different groups and networks and I know at least one in each that I feel are (or have been) moving just a little too quickly in my opinion.
Six months in (or less) and I'm hearing about the four letter word, sex, possible marriage proposals, moving in together, etc. Some things just leave me speechless.
I'm not here to point the finger at anyone and insult them.
I just wanna know why?
Why the rush?
Why not stop and breathe and enjoy the moment in each other's company for a minute?
Is that too much to ask?
But I'm just someone on the outside looking in on these relationships around me so maybe it's different within the relationship but time is time.
As much as I would like to have a control of life and be able to press stop, pause, rewind or fast-forward, I can't and neither can you. Therefore, I think my opinion is fair in this case.
I know that life is short and we should 'seize the moment' but with relationships, you should take your time. If it doesn't last, it doesn't last. Be happy that you were able to enjoy all those past moments together rather than rushing through each one trying to create new ones.
If other people know about your 'rushed' relationship, there will be questions.
And if you question it, if you have ever questioned it at any point during the relationship, you can bet other people surely will also.
Excuse my mood (again).
chauie
'Gave you second chances. At least a hundred times, you're not the one, I am done' - Empty, Jessica Mauboy
I mean, you can look at it both ways really.
ReplyDeleteThe rushing part could be that they just want to do many things in a short period of time to figure out if this person could potentially be the one. That would probably be my only thought of people rushing. But on the other hand, people who progress quickly in a relationship can't be all that bad. In the end it really depends on how people feel which in turn will have them act upon those feelings. Really depends on the couple, situation, feeling, mood whatever. Obviously there aren't written rules about how quick or how slow. Just hope that they don't rush things or take things too slow which will ruin a relationship...