My Random Thought of the Week

Every morning I walk from the station to the office and I walk against the wind where it blows into my direction and hits my face.

I don't know about you but I love that feeling in the morning.

I know some people might hate it, complaining that it's far too cold.

And yes I agree - sometimes it can be unbearable - but on those fine days when you look up at the sky and don’t know what’s going to happen for the remainder of the day, I think that feeling comes into play and it makes me feel kinda refreshed - that cold rush...

If that makes me weird, then so be it.

Night.
chauie
"Drench yourself in words unspoken. Live your life with arms wide open" - Unwritten, Natasha Bedingfield

The Uniform Project

Could you wear 1 dress and create different looks for 365 days?

Sheena Matheiken thinks she can and has been doing so since May 1st, 2009!

(picture credit: http://www.theuniformproject.com/ )

The idea for The Uniform Project sparked Matheiken to also have the fashion blog create exposure and donations for the Akanksha Foundation, a 'grassroots movement that it revolutionising education in India'.

7 duplicates of the dress, designed by Eliza Starbuck, were made to represent each day of the week for Matheiken to wear and style it to her own unique and individual look. The dress, which was designed to be able to be worn both ways - back and front - and also as an open tunic, is the blank canvas for Matheiken to layer and accessorise to her heart's content.

Matheiken asks that you 'think of it as wearing a daily uniform with enough creative license to make it look like I just crawled out of the Marquis de Sade's boudoir'.

Check out her daily ensembles here:

http://www.theuniformproject.com/

To any budding accessories / jewellery designers, Matheiken is happy to add a little touch to her outfits with your designs - feel free to contact her at the above site. Those who weren't blessed with the creative touch can help out Matheiken by donating to the Akanksha Foundation.

Enjoy.
chauie

Ignorance is Bliss

So I got the idea for this post from a friend at work. (Thanks Jackie!) I was telling her about something that I noticed during the weekend that passed whilst out with some friends for a joint birthday. Actually it was the same night that sparked me to post 'Not Again..' but this post has nothing to do with that particular 'cute' subject. :)

In her last email to me, she wrote 'Ignorance is Bliss' and I haven't been able to get those words out of my head.

I have to say though, this post does link to the male species. There's always something to say about the opposite sex, isn't there? (Sorry boys!) In this case, it's about a certain boy and yes, I've made references to him in previous posts.

This 'boy', unfortunately, will always be in my life. Adding to that, he always leaves me confused but whatever. Moving on... The only control I have is how much I see him. I made a bad decision and last year things happened that left me with a broken heart.

But earlier this year, I went away with friends to Japan and as cliché as it sounds, I was able to reflect and do some soul-searching, and the best thing about it is, I think it worked!

Not having to see the 'boy' on the trip for almost four consecutive weeks definitely helped me in getting over my feelings for him. Not being able to see him was indeed a good thing. :)

When a friend (the same friend that inspired this post) was going through a bad break-up, I advised her of something along the lines of 'Ignorance is Bliss'. I am not usually one to take my own advice and I never thought that this little piece of advice would work for me but it did.

Spending that time away (bonus points that it was far far away in a foreign country!) helped me much more than I initially thought it would. For that reason, I felt that when I came back to Sydney, I chose to continue keeping that distance. Whilst everyone else made contact with the friends we left behind, I completely took steps back and didn't make any contact, except with my best friend and those few that I wanted to contact.

It wasn't until about a few weeks later when an event occurred that had the entire group coming together and that's when I saw him. Seeing him again, I thought I might break. Tears. Run away. React.

But surprisingly (to me, at least) I was unaffected. It was definitely a great feeling. :)

Going back to a more recent event (like Saturday night) - by the way, the above was a bit of reminiscing for me - that same 'boy' had just gotten back from a trip himself. To be honest, we don't really talk to each other the way we used to due to last year's unfortunate (or is that fortunate?) events. I'm not sure if the rest of our crew is oblivous to this fact or maybe they are aware and just choose to ignore / avoid the topic. Just a thought...

Anyways, dinner was fine. We weren't at the same table so that was okay. It wasn't until we got to the club when I noticed his behaviour..

Let's just say, it was definitely questionable.

Certain things he did as the night went on had me wanting to turn to him and say:

'It's too late.'

Or better yet:

'You had your chance with me, but you chose her. I'm over you and I'm not taking any steps backwards into your arms. You're just... too late. Move on. Coz I have. I'm doing fine without you and if I never see you again, I think I'd be okay with that.'

To those who don't know me and are reading this, you might think it's harsh but I'm just being honest.

I may never be able to say it to his face but at least you know how I feel on paper (in writing).

I'm out.

Peace yo.
chauie
"Boy, I'm sick and tired of trying to read your mind" - Impossible, Christina Aguilera

Flirting on Facebook

(picture credit: tibethouse.org)

Nowadays everyone has a Facebook account.

Whether you use it often or not, everybody has registered / signed up for an account. When it first became a big craze, it was all about how many "friends" you could obtain.

(Online) social networking is a topic I'll actually be researching for a group project I'm doing for one of my classes and of course we're going to talk about Facebook. It has millions of users worldwide and that number is growing on a daily basis.

The whole "Friends" thing definitely raises a lot of questions though. For example, how many of those "Friends" do you actually see and interact with on a regular basis? Can you separate your online relationships / friendships with your offline?

The whole talk of relationships and friendships definitely interconnect with one another in my opinion. But my argument / point of this particular post is the flirting that happens on Facebook.

It leads me to the question: Should flirting be done privately or would you prefer to have the public witnessing you in the act?

If you like someone, get their digits and if you're afraid to use your voice, then there is the alternative of sending them a private text message so that only the two parties involved can view what each person wants to say to the other.

I'm currently witnessing the act of flirting between two of my "Facebook Friends" - one, a guy who in the past broke my heart (I'm over him now - please refer to previous post 'Letter'), and the other is a girl I met through a friend.

Don't they both see that it's obvious they're flirting with each other? It makes me want to go up to them, give them a lil' shake and say,

'Would you just ask them out already?'

The fact that I am friends with both parties, allows me to easily access and click on their "Wall-to-Wall" to see their messages / conversation to each other and frankly, it's a bit annoying to read the back-and-forth responses when I click on my Facebook Home Page.

Being female, I could read into this a lot more and analyse such actions and be like 'Are you doing it on a public social network as a dig at me? (This is directed to the boy obviously) Is this the way you wanted things to start out between us? Public flirting?'
If it is, well, I'm glad nothing further went on between us.

But that wasn't my initial reaction lol :P

Basically what I'm saying is some things should stay private and that includes relationships. It's fine if you're both already in a relationship, but if you're interested in one another and haven't made a move, do you really want those first 'moves' done in the public eye of everyone that is your 'Facebook Friend'?

Do you want the the world (assuming their profile is public, which most are because they haven't discovered the Privacy Settings) to see your intentions with the other party? We're not stupid. Everyone knows what flirting looks like whether it be verbal, physical or in this case online. Everyone knows how to flirt and you're both flirting with each other - online for all of us to see!
If you stuff up, everyone can read how and where you went wrong.

Lame...

Out.
chauie
"Getting along very well without you in my life. I don't need you in my life" - Doin' Just Fine, Boyz II Men

Not Again..

I love my best friend but sometimes I dont know...
(hehe kidding! i still love her!)

It seems every time we go out, and I know it's a rare occasion coz she's always busy with Uni so maybe I should stop complaining while I'm ahead, but every time we go out, she tells me that I should hook up with a guy or try and push me towards a guy that we both think is cute.

Just coz I think he's cute doesnt mean I want to act upon it. Can't I just think a guy is cute and leave it at that?

This kinda goes back to my first post on this blog (My Single Status, June 09) where I posted that article that I sent in for Sydney Morning Herald's 'The Heckler' (it never got published but I had fun writing it).

As from the abovementioned (blog) post, I'm going to propose the same question:

Is being single such a bad thing?

Do I have a sign above my head everywhere I go that says 'Desperate for you to set me up with someone. Quick!' ?

If I do, it must only be visible to you.

I just don't get it.

This has gotten me a bit worked up (again) because last night we went out for a joint birthday for my best friend and another girlfriend and there was a boy there that yes, we both thought was cute and she was like 'why don't you go and talk to him?' but I know in reality, she was hoping something would come out of that question / conversation (had I done it!), like maybe him asking me for my digits or vice versa.

I dragged out my decision long enough though and by the time she decided to go and talk to him 'for me', he was saying goodbye to everyone.

Oh well :P

When the time comes, it'll happen. Til then, I don't mind waiting :)

I'm out.

Goodnight.

chauie

'Been a long time since I did something good for myself' - Forgive Me, Leona Lewis